A wedding guest has vented her frustration online after receiving a lineup of dress codes she says is leaving her more stressed than excited ahead of her sister-in-law’s big day.
In a post on Reddit, user live_freeze_n_die described what she called a “disaster” of wardrobe instructions for a series of events tied to the celebration in New England.
The family, she wrote, is “incredibly wealthy” and based in an “incredibly wealthy, old-money city,” so she expected formal attire.
“Fine, whatever,” she noted, “I love an excuse to get dressed up. But I did not expect whatever *this* is.”
The events begin with an engagement party labeled “Sundress Smart” in February, followed by a bridal shower dubbed “Connecticut Casual.”
A welcome luncheon is set as “Business Casual,” the rehearsal dinner as “Cocktail Formal,” and the wedding itself as “White Tie Formal” on the beach—“in the literal sand,” she added.
The weekend concludes with a “Beach Formal” post-wedding brunch.
“I will be buying exactly two outfits for this entire ordeal and splitting them between the events. F*** this wedding,” she declared.
Reddit users weighed in via the comments, with one joking, “A tuxspeedo will solve all your problems. Formal and beachwear at the same time.”
Another user focused on the logistics of formalwear in the sand, asking, “Are they going to pay to get your formal dress cleaned after you have been on the beach? Seriously, ridiculous.”
“Please wear a bikini and heels to the beach formal event,” one commenter urged.
Beach Weddings
Beach ceremonies often require adjustments to traditional formalwear.
According to Brides, wedding planner Megan Papageorge said, “Beach wedding attire is the same as any other wedding where you dress according to the formality of the event, but unlike a normal celebration, there are some small changes to accessories and fabrics that will make you much more comfortable.”
The publication also advises: “Rule #1: Leave the stilettos at home.”
‘Your safest bet’
The Knot notes that even formal beach weddings tend to adapt expectations.
“Even if you’ve been invited to a formal wedding on the beach, it’s unlikely you’ll be expected to wear a tuxedo or evening gown,” according to The Knot’s guide to beach wedding guest attire.
The outlet adds that for men, “a suit is usually your safest bet, but skip black and choose a color like blue or tan instead.”
The combination of “White Tie Formal” and a sandy setting stood out to many commenters, as white tie is traditionally the most formal dress code, often associated with indoor evening events and floor-length gowns or tailcoats.
‘This entire ordeal’
While the OP did not indicate whether she plans to raise concerns directly with the couple, her post reflects a broader tension some guests feel when wedding aesthetics collide with comfort and cost.
For now, she appears set on streamlining her wardrobe strategy: “I will be buying exactly two outfits for this entire ordeal,” she wrote, signaling that, regardless of the labels, practicality will guide her choices.
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