She said what she said.
A woman’s honest take on how dads should know how to care for their kids without a list of instructions from mom has sparked an important discussion about gender roles.
Lisa Koerner (@lisakoerner10) posted a video in which the Arizona native shared her “unpopular opinion” about parental responsibility — and it clearly struck a nerve with many.
In a TikTok video, with over 3 million views, an unbothered Koerne is seen eating dumplings with overlay text that reads, “This might sting a little but it has to be said. Your husband should be able to take care of your kids on his own without you needing to leave a three-page instruction manual or stressing over their health. Prove me wrong in the comments.”
If they’re not helping to take care of their children when home, it’s fair to ask — what are these men doing?
Koerne told The Post that the idea behind posting her now-viral video “honestly came from everyday life and conversations I’ve had with other moms, plus my own experience.”
“It wasn’t meant to be a hot take — it was more about saying out loud something a lot of parents think but don’t always talk about. Parenting is learned, and both parents are fully capable of figuring it out,” she said.
The mom’s video resonated with so many women, as almost four thousand commenters chimed in beneath her video, the majority agreeing with Koerne’s take.
“If I could baby sit babies at 13 how can a grown man not be able to look after his own child.”
“That’s the difference between having a wife and kids versus being a husband and father.”
“If he can’t, then you have an additional kid.”
“You are 100% correct.”
“And he’s not babysitting!!!!! He’s watching HIS OWN CHILD!!!! god that makes me so mad when people are like ‘Oh that’s nice he’s babysitting her?’ No? He’s just being our child’s father?”
When asked about the response to her brutally honest video, Koerne wasn’t surprised that so many women related to it.
“I think it resonated because a lot of moms carry the mental load, remembering schedules, anticipating needs, and keeping everything running. That part of parenting often goes unseen. Another thing a lot of times dads are praised for doing what is considered bare minimum and we need to raise the bar,” she told The Post.
“I also think it’s important to say that there are so many dads today who are incredibly involved and hands-on, like my own husband. It’s actually really encouraging to see how much modern parenting has shifted, with more fathers showing up, learning, and taking on an active role in their kids’ lives.”
Fathers being clueless when it comes to caring for their children is sadly not a new complaint.
In a post on U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, a frustrated wife and mother vented about her husband’s irrational complaints about having to care for their children while she works.
In her online rant, she explained how her selfish hubby tells her she “should get a job that fits around school hours and no way should I be working on the weekend (we always have one weekend day free). He knew the days/hours I was working and we both agreed it would be ok.”
To make matters worse, when she comes home after a long day, he’s waiting at the door to complain that he’s had to look after his own children.
Meanwhile, “he does one school drop off and one pick up. He has the rest of the day/s to do as he pleases,” this fed-up wife wrote.
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